Thursday, June 02, 2005

Learning Forward

The difference between those who manage to move forward and those who keep getting the same results is the amount of effort they put into preparation and learning from their experiences. -- Michael Oliver

Michael Oliver's quote is functionally related to Network Marketing. It, however, spurs a thought, in my mind, that all of life is about "learning forward." An experience in my workplace today illustrates this thought.

The company for whom I work has recently completed a research project concerning predecessor institutions and their relationship to the slave trade. Sadly, two institutions were uncovered that used slaves as collateral/security for business transactions. Such actions are without question to be condemned, and provide lessons regarding the worth of every human being. The value of this research, however, will be compromised if we only use the results to reopen wounds that have long since begun to heal.

A gentleman confronted me about the emerging news concerning the use of slaves as chattel in two predecessor institutions of our company. His diatribe lasted several minutes before I drew him to an office to allow him to vent. Eventually our discussion grew more sedate, and he left with the address of our CEO, and a recommendation that he was welcome to make his feelings known to our senior management.

The lesson? As justified as this man was in feeling a resentment for the abuse of his ancestors, wallowing in the mire of past wrongs will not permit one to learn forward and grow. In fact, our company released the following statement which, I believe, presents a credo for those who wish to blaze a path of success:
"While we can in no way atone for the past, we can learn from it, and we can continue to promote a better understanding of the African-American story, including the unique struggles, triumphs and contributions of African-Americans, and their important role in America’s past and present."
One will never make a difference in life if he or she dwells on past failures. So many aspiring entrepreneurs miss greatness by a hairs width because they fail to learn forward. They allow themselves the "luxury" of self-pity.

Here's a two-step approach to making the best of any situation:
  1. Learn from it.
  2. Promote a better understanding.

Too simple? Maybe. But, I'm willing to give it a try. Don't complicate the process. Accept what has happened and move on. Learn from the mistakes, and seek to develop a better understanding so the same mistakes aren't made again.

Let's commit to learning forward. I'm convinced that you'll need to be prepared for the abundant returns from your efforts.

Always make a difference!

Saturday, May 28, 2005

One Small Step for Man

"Confront the difficult while it is still easy; accomplish the great task by a series of small acts." – Lao-tzu

When I first graduated from college, I entered the teaching profession. As a young, energetic, first year teacher, I learned early to, in the words of the great American philosopher Barney Fife, "Nip it in the bud." While reading MLM Today I was reminded of a sign I put up in my classroom nearly 20 years ago . . . "Do It Now!"

I was the proverbial procrastinator. If the task seemed difficult, I would put it off until I felt like doing it. It didn't take long to realize that what appeared difficult soon became insurmountable.

I came across the aforementioned quotation by Lao-Tzu and was immediately struck by its simplicity. Truly we grow too soon old and too late smart, as someone so aptly observed. Why do we not take the small steps to success? Why it is that the nature of most people is to wait until the circumstances are so overwhelming that giving up seems the only viable option? Success is seldom, if ever, an overnight phenomenon. It is born of consistent small acts that lead to the fulfillment of the grand desire.

In my counsel, I echo the words of the late Winston Churchill, "Never, never, never give up!" Dale Carnegie once wisely opined, "Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by peole who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all."

Whether your challenge is financial, health related, relational, or from some other source, take the first small step today to find the resolution. Don't allow the circumstantial to keep you from the essential! Confront what appears difficult by breaking it down into the small steps and start your journey. Do it now!!

Always make a difference!

Thursday, May 12, 2005

A Prayer for His Son by Gen. Douglas MacArthur

General Douglas MacArthur penned the following prayer in the early days of World War II as a spiritual legacy to his son Arthur. It was made public after the general died in 1964. Read the thoughts and consider how different our world would be if every father lived and prayed this way.

Build me a son, O Lord,
who will be strong enough to know when he is weak, brave enough to face himself when he is afraid,

Build me a son,
whose wishes will not take the place of deeds...Lead him, I pray, not in the path of ease and comfort,but under the stress and spur of difficulties and challenges. Let him learn to stand in the storm;let him learn compassion for those who fall.

Build me a son,
whose heart is clear, whose goals will be high, a son who will master himself before he seeks to master others; who will reach into the future, yet never forget the past.

And after all these things are his, add, I pray,
enough of a sense of humor so that he may always be serious yet never take himeself too seriously...

Then, I, his father will dare to whisper,"I have not lived in vain."

Powerful sentiments! This father is passing this prayer along to his sons, and making a commitment to pray the prayer everyday. God willing, such a commitment will not only make a difference in the lives of my sons, but in the lives of those they are privileged to touch!

Always make a difference!

Saturday, March 26, 2005

Reaping What We Sow

"I know that the seeds I sow I will harvest, because every action, good or bad, is always followed by an equal reaction. I will plant only good seeds this day." - Og Mandino

Readers of Difference Makers have probably noticed that I am a collector of quotations that can make a difference. One of the benefits of reading a lot, is the potential to pick the brain of one wiser than I, and utilize the "pickin's" as a source of bite-sized motivation. The quotation above is by Og Mandino. The principle, however, can be found in the Bible in Galatians chapter 6.

In my daily blog browsing, I came across a post in MLM Blog about a failed network marketing attempt called Gold Entertainment. Accompanying this post was a daring comment by one who "jumped ship" to try this new upstart that apparently was said to have the ability to fulfill all one's hopes and dreams. Sadly, the dreams were pipedreams, and the hopes were only wishes.

I admire the comment made on this post. It takes courage to admit when one is wrong. Well stated, Shane, and I am in agreement with your statements about the leadership of Passport LLC.

Now to the essence of my post . . . You will reap what you sow!

Many people look to network marketing as a way to do nothing and gain everything. The vast majority of MLM companies have sold themselves as an easy way to grow rich. As a result, many "get-rich-quickers" follow the pie in the sky only to be disappointed at best, and destroyed at worst.

Frankly, from my own experience, owning your own business is an easy way to go broke. The reason? It takes a genuine vision to make a business successful, regardless of the model used. Full Steam Ahead by Ken Blanchard and Jesse Stoner is a great reference manual for how to develop and maintain your vision.

Find a company that manifests the values important to you. Determine that, regardless of what others offer, you are committed for the long term. Your days of "business hopping" are over. Commit to your purpose, establish your values and develop a mental picture of where you want to be.

Difference Makers urges all those with entrepreneurial aspirations to stop sowing seeds of greed, and start sowing seeds of giving. There is a life principle that says that you must give away that which you want to obtain. Sow the seed of giving in your business and watch the return on your investment.

Sow only good seeds so that you may reap a good harvest!

Always make a difference!

Thursday, March 24, 2005

WOW in MLM!

Could it be that someone is really interested in changing the perception of the masses regarding network marketing? Is it possible that a company has come along that has the interests of the industry at large at heart? MLM Blog has offered some very practical tips on how to evaluate both network marketing and professed MLM/Network Marketing companies.

How refreshing to see a company that isn't in the "numbers game." Who'd have thunk that you can make MLM work without the "curiosity" (i.e., deception) approach?

Kudos to Ty Tribble and Passport! Please take time to read Ty's most recent entry on MLM Blog. Here's someone who is making great efforts to make a difference in an industry that truly represents the entreprenuial spirit!

Always make a difference!

Tuesday, March 22, 2005

Truth in the Marketplace

Can one really know "the truth?" Are there absolutes that govern the affairs of this world? How can you claim to know "the truth" and yet remain tolerant of those with whom you disagree?

At the risk of brazen self promotion, I have begun another blog entitled Truth in the Marketplace. This blog has been in my mind and heart for some time. It will differ from Difference Makers in that the emphasis will be clearly spiritual in nature. Difference Makers will continue to address the motivational and inspirational topics that encourage readers to not merely live, but live to make a difference.

Truth in the Marketplace will offer readers this writers perspective on how to live the principles of the Christian faith "in the marketplace." The four ideals promoted in Truth are truth, excellence, justice and praiseworthiness. If those ideals are important to you, join in and contribute.

Sunday, March 13, 2005

Sail On!

Perseverance in the face of difficulty is a trait to be desired. Our age seems to promote a "throw away" mentality. If the trials are too difficult, simply get rid of the problem.

It was once said, "When the going gets tough, the tough get going." That statement might now be rendered, "When the going gets tough, the tough are already gone."

While reading a daily devotion from the book Streams in the Desert, I came across a poem by Joaquin Miller. I'll not speak for the quality of Mr. Miller's life or character. This poem, however, portrays well the quality of perseverance. It is based on the courageous determination of one Christopher Columbus:

Behind him lay the gray Azores,
Behind the gates of Hercules;
Before him not the ghost of shores,
Before him only shorless seas.
The good Mate said, "Now we must pray,
For lo! the very stars are gone.
Brave Admiral, speak, what shall I say?"
"Why say, 'Sail on! sail on! and on!


"My men grow mutinous day by day;
My men grow ghastly wan and weak!"
The stout Mate thought of home; a spray
Of salt wavewashed his swarthy cheek.
"What shall I say, brave Admiral, say,
If we sight naught but seas at dawn?"
"Why, you shall say at break of day,
'Sail on! sail on! sail on! and on!'"

They sailed. They sailed. Then spake the Mate;
"This mad sea shows its teeth tonight."
He curls his lip, he lies in wait,
With lifted teeth, as if to bite!
"Brave Admiral, say but one good word;
What shall we do when hope is gone?"
The words leapt like a leaping sword;
"Sail on! sail on! sail on! and on!"

Then, pale and worn, he kept his deck
And peered through darkness. Ah! that night
Of all dark nights! And then a speck --
A light! A light! A light! A light!
It grew, a starlit flag unfurled!
It grew to be Time's burst of dawn.
He gained a world; he gave that world
It's greatest lesson: "On! sail on!"


Ronald Reagan once said, "A leader, once convinced that a particular course of action is the right one, must... be undaunted when the going gets tough." Undaunted when the going gets tough! What a concept!

When choosing to make a difference, determine ahead of time that, regardless of the obstacles and/or trials, that you will finish the job! That's what Christopher Columbus did, and look at the result.

Always make a difference!

Thursday, March 10, 2005

The Way to Get Things Done!

The quality of initiative has served our nation well. How grateful I am that Thomas Edison took the initiative to invent the light bulb, Alexander Graham Bell, the telephone, and, more importantly, George Washington Carver, peanut butter. Men like Franklin, Jefferson, Hancock, and others, initiated this grand experiment we call America. Women like Florence Nightengale, Susan B. Anthony and Mother Theresa significantly impacted our world through a willingness to step out in the face of potential failure.

Francis of Assisi best captured the essence of initative when he said, "Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible." Zig Ziglar adds, "You don't have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great."

Tonight I reviewed the first contribution of my son to the blogging world. His blog is titled The Most Widely Read Blog on the Internet! What I admire most about his blog is not the content, but the courage. His initiative shows courage by being willing to begin doing what is necessary. It is far easier to sit back and complain, or leave the "hard work" to someone else. No doubt he will face discouraging times and feel like no one really cares about his interests. Just remember, "More powerful than the will to win is the courage to begin."

Why not get started! It doesn't matter what you do. If you have a dream, sail on!

Your journey begins with the first step. Marquise du Deffand once wrote, "The distance is nothing; it's only the first step that is difficult." Take that first step . . . and make a difference!

Always make a difference!!

P.S. Great job, bud! Looking forward to your continued success.

Tuesday, March 01, 2005

The Sprit of Industry

While I have chosen to limit my involvement in any homebased business for the time, I am a firm believer that the concept, whether a cottage industry or some form of direct sales, is rooted in the moral fabric of our nation. The proverbial butcher, baker and candlestick maker all supported their homes with the spirit of industry and fair trade. What's more, they passed their industrious spirit on to the generations to follow by involving them in their business, or arranging for them to participate in apprenticeships with other "homebased" businesses, like the cooper or the blacksmith, etc.

Sadly our culture has largely become one of entitlements, and the spirit of industry has fallen on hard times. Our society is being "trained" by various forms of electronic media and growing soft and pleasure driven.

Over the past 30 years, I have been involved in a number of businesses that are defined as multilevel or network driven. Each one had the concept of industry at its core. Unfortunately, greed became a driving force in a few and the result has been an inverted Robin Hood effect (i.e., "robbing" from the poor and giving to the rich). As evidence I offer my current debt load that grew largely as the result of a blind adherence to principles that ran counter to my gut.

About a year ago I came across a homebased business that seemed to offer something different in the networking business genre. Since I have committed my life to making a difference, I determined to check it out.

Everything I surmised was indeed true. This business WAS interested in making a difference! The products were priced fairly and of superior quality. The marketing plan offered a number of channels through which a fledgling entrepreneur could launch a business and make money immediately. The leadership understood what the average person, who had aspirations of a better life, needed to succeed.

Along the way I grew a little disillusioned because the tone became both defensive and offensive against other such businesses. In my humble opinion, the hyperbole on both sides served only to alienate, and affirmed the preconceived notions some had about such businesses. Professionalism was lost in the tit for tat, and neither side emerged the winner.

The good news, however, is that it would appear that such demeaning activities have ceased and the company for which I have great respect HAS emerged with a renewed vision and a determined leadership. Such is evidenced in a blog on MLM Today. I invite readers of Difference Makers to check out this blog written by Dave Stone. It is my opinion that this company is determined to make a difference in an industry that offers everyone a true opportunity.

Remember, always make a difference!

Saturday, February 19, 2005

Building a Difference Maker!

I'm not sure where I found this story, but it has had a profound impact on my life. Perhaps there is someone in your world that needs some encouragement and affirmation.

"As she stood in front of her 5th grade class on the very first day of school, she told the children an untruth. Like most teachers, she looked at her students and said that she loved them all the same. However, that was impossible, because there in the front row, slumped in his seat, was a little boy named Teddy Stoddard.

Mrs. Thompson had watched Teddy the year before and noticed that he did not play well with the other children, that his clothes were messy and that he constantly needed a bath. In addition, Teddy could be unpleasant. It got to the point where Mrs. Thompson would actually take delight in marking his papers with a broad red pen, making bold X's and then putting a big "F" at the top of his papers.

At the school where Mrs. Thompson taught, she was required to review each child's past records and she put Teddy's off until last. However, when she reviewed his file, she was in for a surprise.


  • Teddy's first grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is a bright child with a ready laugh. He does his work neatly and has good manners....he is a joy to be around.."
  • His second grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is an excellent student, well liked by his classmates, but he is troubled because his mother has a terminal illness and life at home must be a struggle."
  • His third grade teacher wrote, "His mother's death has been hard on him. He tries to do his best, but his father doesn't show much interest and his home life will soon affect him if some steps aren't taken."
  • Teddy's fourth grade teacher wrote, "Teddy is withdrawn and doesn't show much interest in school. He doesn't have many friends and he sometimes sleeps in class."

By now, Mrs. Thompson realized the problem and she was ashamed of herself. She felt even worse when her students brought her Christmas presents, wrapped in beautiful ribbons and bright paper, except for Teddy's. His present was clumsily wrapped in the heavy, brown paper that he got from a grocery bag. Mrs. Thompson took pains to open it in the middle of the other presents. Some of the children started to laugh when she found a rhinestone bracelet with some of the stones missing, and a bottle that was one-quarter full of perfume. But she stifled the children's laughter when she exclaimed how pretty the bracelet was, putting it on, and dabbing some of the perfume on her wrist.

Teddy Stoddard stayed after school that day just long enough to say, "Mrs. Thompson, today you smelled just like my Mom used to." After the children left, she cried for at least an hour. On that very day, she quit teaching reading, writing and arithmetic. Instead, she began to teach children. Mrs. Thompson paid particular attention to Teddy. As she worked with him, his mind seemed to come alive. The more she encouraged him, the faster he responded. By the end of the year, Teddy had become one of the smartest children in the class and, despite her lie that she would love all the children the same, Teddy became one of her "teacher's pets."

A year later, she found a note under her door, from Teddy, telling her that she was still the best teacher he ever had in his whole life. Six years went by before she got another note from Teddy. He then wrote that he had finished high school, third in his class, and she was still the best teacher he ever had in life.

Four years after that, she got another letter, saying that while things had been tough at times, he'd stayed in school, had stuck with it, and would soon graduate from college with the highest of honours. He assured Mrs. Thompson that she was still the best and favourite teacher he had ever had in his whole life.

Then, four more years passed, and yet another letter came. This time he explained that after he got his bachelor's degree, he decided to go a little further. The letter explained that she was still the best and favourite teacher he ever had. But now his name was a little longer.... The letter was signed, Theodore F. Stoddard, MD.

The story does not end there. You see, there was yet another letter that Spring. Teddy said he had met this girl and was going to be married. He explained that his father had died a couple of years ago and he was wondering if Mrs. Thompson might agree to sit at the wedding in the place that was usually reserved for the mother of the groom. Of course, Mrs. Thompson did. And guess what? She wore that bracelet, the one with several rhinestones missing. Moreover, she made sure she was wearing the perfume that Teddy remembered his mother wearing on their last Christmas together. They hugged each other, and Dr. Stoddard whispered in Mrs. Thompson's ear, 'Thank you, Mrs. Thompson, for believing in me. Thank you so much for making me feel important and showing me that I could make a difference.' Mrs. Thompson, with tears in her eyes, whispered back. She said, 'Teddy, you have it all wrong. You were the one who taught me that I could make a difference. I didn't know how to teach until I met you!'"

(For those of you who don't know, Teddy Stoddard is the Dr. at Iowa Methodist in Des Moines that has the Stoddard Cancer Wing.)

Won't you be a Mrs. Thompson in someones life today?

Always make a difference!

Thursday, February 17, 2005

Integrity - The "Whole" Story

Sorry for the delay! As previously promised, here are my thoughts regarding my core values.

Integrity speaks of uncorrupted virtue. The word comes from integer which means "wholeness." Remember those "whole numbers" in math class?

Integrity was once a hallowed value. It supplied an anchor in the stormy trials of life. John F. Kennedy once said, "we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them." There was a day that a man's word was his bond. Today, I fear, that integrity has fallen on hard times. It requires a mettle that is fast fading from the marketplace.

Integrity, in my humble opinion, is the key core value. "To reach a great height a person needs to have great depth," someone once said. A shallow character will never withstand the temptations of compromise.

Henry Ward Beecher said it best when he wrote, "No man can tell whether he is rich or poor by turning to his ledger. It is the heart that makes a man rich. He is rich according to what he is, not according to what he has." When one measures his worth by temporal standards, there is always the danger that "whatever it takes" will include less than honest actions or activities. Strive to be, not to have!

To make a difference in today's marketplace will require a commitment to integrity. The high road may not be the easy road, but it is always the right road. Gandhi understood this when he said, "A 'No' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a 'Yes' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble."

Always make a difference by being a person of integrity!

Thursday, October 28, 2004

The Case for Core Values

Values speak of worth. We often hear of "family values" or "traditional values." These speak of positions or beliefs that are of sufficient worth to warrant a strong defense.

Core values are essential principles that represent the very heart of our beliefs or standards. These are positions or practices of great worth. They keep the "blood" flowing in every pursuit.

Without a set of core values, you will wander and waver at the onset of adversity. You will vacillate in confrontation. In short, you will be tempted to quit when times get tough.

Such was the situation in which I found myself over the past month. I was denied a desired promotion. Our financial situation at home worsened. Several "big ticket" items in the home are showing wear and tear, requiring replacement in the near future. On and on it goes.

Discouragement began to set it. Hopelessness was on the horizon. Life was being ruled by the tyrannical urgency of the moment, rather than the lasting value of the future. Thankfully, I had established a set of core values that provided a glimmer of light when all seemed so dark.

Three core values provided renewed "vision" when the fog of uncertainty set in. While they are only concepts/words, they provide the impetus for a commitment to keep on keeping on. When employed, they help to rekindle the inner drive that says, "Don't quit!"

The core values that are the heart of my life and business pursuits are integrity, initiative and industry. Over the next few days I'll "unpack" them and show how they have made a difference in my life. I trust that you'll find the need to establish a set of core values as well.

As always. . .we're here to make a difference!

Wednesday, October 27, 2004

ALWAYS . . . Make a Difference!

After a rather lengthy hiatus, I've decided to return to the blogging world.

During the past month, I have spent a great deal of time considering what I really wanted to accomplish both in blogging and in business. What I have determined is that the key to both is found in the title of this blog. No matter how you cut it, the key to success is truly making a difference. The problem, I found, is that making a difference is hard work.

Making a difference assumes a set of core values that drive consistent action. You can't make a difference by being on again/off again. So, what core values drive me in my personal and business pursuits? Stay tuned! In my next several posts I'll identify values that I believe are non-negotiable for true success.

Remember . . . our goal is to always make a difference!

Wednesday, September 15, 2004

Who Is Watching You?

The following story challenged me to live as an example before others. While it speaks of the perception of little children, we are wise to observe that our every action, attitude and activity is lived on a stage. Everything we do sets a pattern that others will follow.
Character and ethics are far more caught than taught. When words conflict with actions, the actions will be mimicked, and the words ignored. This provides a breeding ground for hypocrisy and deception. These are obviously not qualities we want to pass on.
Read the story, and be instructed. What kind of difference will you make in the lives of those watching you? When corrected, how will you react . . . what changes will you make?
The Wooden Bowl

A frail old man went to live with his son, daughter-in-law, and four-year old grandson. The old man's hands trembled, his eyesight was blurred, and his step faltered. The family ate together at the table, but the elderly grandfather's shaky hands and failing sight made eating difficult. Peas rolled off his spoon onto the floor. When he grasped the glass, milk spilled on the tablecloth.

The son and daughter-in-law became irritated with the mess. "We must do something about Grandfather," said the son. I've had enough of his spilled milk, noisy eating, and food on the floor." So the husband and wife set a small table in the corner. There, Grandfather ate alone while the rest of the family enjoyed dinner. Since Grandfather had broken a dish or two, his food was served in a wooden bowl.

When the family glanced in Grandfather's direction, sometimes he had a tear in his eye as he sat alone. Still, the only words the couple had for him were sharp admonitions when he dropped a fork or spilled food. The four-year-old watched it all in silence.

One evening before supper, the father noticed his son playing with wood scraps on the floor. He asked the child sweetly, "What are you making?" Just as sweetly, the boy responded, "Oh, I am making a little bowl for you and Mama to eat your food when I grow up." The four-year-old smiled and went back to work. The words so struck the parents that they were speechless. Then, tears started to stream down their cheeks. Though no word was spoken, both knew what must be done.

That evening the husband took Grandfather's hand and gently led him back to the family table. For the remainder of his days, he ate every meal with the family. And for some reason, neither husband nor wife seemed to care any longer when a fork was dropped, milk spilled, or the tablecloth soiled.

Children are remarkably perceptive. Their eyes ever observe, their ears ever listen, and their minds ever process the messages they absorb. If they see us patiently provide a happy home atmosphere, they will imitate that attitude for the rest of their lives. The wise parent realizes that every day the building blocks are being laid for the child's future. Let's be wise builders and role models.

~Author Unknown~

Always make a difference!

Monday, September 06, 2004

Hurricane Frances

Heading to Jacksonville, FL to assist with hurricane relief. Hope you have a difference making week. Will probably not have the opportunity to blog while gone.

"Live and work to make a difference, to make things better." Make today a special day in someone's life.

Remember,

Always make a difference!

Sunday, September 05, 2004

What Do You Choose?

I'm not sure where I found this article, but it struck a chord with me as I re-read it today. My daughter has a cassette tape of character building songs. One of the songs is "Nobody Likes a Grumbler." How easy it is to fall prey to a pessimistic outlook. It's easy to grumble about why things are the way they are. But, my friend, while the outlook may be bleak, YOU choose what kind of day you have. Dale Carnegie is quoted as saying, "Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all." While you can't choose the circumstances of your life, you can choose how you respond!

Hope this article makes a difference in your life!

Remember,

Always make a difference!

Today I can . . .

I woke up early today, excited over all I get to do before the clock strikes midnight.

I have responsibilities to fulfill today. I am important. My job is to choose what kind of day I am going to have.

Today I can complain because the weather is rainy, OR... I can be thankful that the grass is getting watered for free.

Today I can feel sad that I don't have more money, OR... I can be glad that my finances encourage me to plan my purchases wisely and guide me away from waste.

Today I can grumble about my health, OR...I can rejoice that I am alive.

Today I can lament over all that my parents didn't give me when I was growing up, OR...I can feel grateful that they allowed me to be born.

Today I can cry because roses have thorns, OR...I can celebrate that thorns have roses.

Today I can mourn my lack of friends, OR...I can excitedly embark upon a quest to discover new relationships.

Today I can whine because I have to go to work, OR...I can shout for joy because I have a job to go to.

Today I can complain because I have to go to school, OR...Eagerly open my mind and fill it with new tidbits of knowledge.

Today I can murmur dejectedly because I have to do housework, OR... I can feel honored because the Lord has provided shelter for my mind, body, and soul.

Today stretches ahead of me, waiting to be shaped. And here I am, the sculptor who gets to do the shaping.

What today will be like is up to me! I get to choose what kind of day I will have!


Saturday, September 04, 2004

The Tortoise and the Hare

It would be my belief that every human above the age of zero has heard the story of the tortoise and the hare. Realizing that I don't have the benefit of being omniscient, I have included a version of the fable for those who have not.

The Tortoise and the Hare

There once was a speedy hare who bragged about how fast he could run. Tired of hearing him boast, "Slow and Steady", the tortoise, challenged him to a race. All the animals in the forest gathered to watch.

Hare ran down the road for a while and then and paused to rest. He looked back at old "Slow and Steady" and cried out, "How do you expect to win this race when you are walking along at your slow, slow pace?" Hare stretched himself out alongside the road and fell asleep, thinking, "There is plenty of time to relax."

Slow and Steady, as the hare referred to his competitor, walked and walked. He never, ever stopped until he came to the finish line. The animals who were watching cheered so loudly for Tortoise, they woke up Hare.

Hare stretched and yawned and began to run again, but it was too late. Tortoise was over the line.

After that, Hare always reminded himself, "Don't brag about your lightning pace, for 'Slow and Steady' won the race!"
Why use a child's fable to address an adult audience? To urge readers of Difference Makers to read a post on a blog called Natural Selling. This blog was introduced to me by MLMBlog. I personally urge all those who have an entreprenurial interest in network marketing to read both these blogs routinely.

Natural Selling wrote a post called "Going Slow to Go Fast." The main point of the author, in my opinion, is summarized in the last sentence, "Going slower is the FASTEST way I know of to build lifelong relationships."

This one statement is foundational to anyone seeking to build a profitable network marketing business. Regardless of product or program, if your motive leaves out the building of solid relationships, you are destined for disappointment, at best, and failure, at worst. To genuinely build a relationship takes TIME! Might even say it requires "slow and steady" effort.

Are you willing to invest significant time into building relationships? Will you commit to making your relationships more important than your entreprenuerial accomplishments? Your ultimate success will depend on your enthusiasm to create sincere relationships, rather than merely playing the "numbers game." Such an attitude will surely make a difference!

Join me in welcoming Natural Selling to the blogging community!

Remember,

Always make a difference!

Wednesday, September 01, 2004

Cherish the Moments

I just finished reading a post on MLM Today entitled Make The Most Of The Moments. I was not only touched by the personal incident cited, but moved to make some changes personally that will positively impact the relationships in my life.

My wife and I were privileged to raise three sons, and then, seven years ago, we were graced by the birth of a little girl. Our boys' youth blazed past me as I immersed myself in career and community affairs. When our daughter was born, however, I was challenged by the words of song by Christian composer Ron Hamilton. Bear with me as I shout a hearty "Amen" to the post previously mentioned, and to the sentiments of the song, Cherish the Moment.

Read my book, rub my back;
Mommy listen to my prayer.
Let me sit in your lap.
Daddy, fly me through the air.
Throw a ball, make a snack;
Can we go to the park?
Tuck me in, hold me close;
I'm afraid of the dark.

Sing a song, play a game;
Swing me high in the air.
Ride a bike, fly a kite;
How I love the times we share.
Hold my hand, hug my neck;
Daddy bounce me on your knee.
Come and sit by my bed;
Mommy, rock me to sleep.

Think ahead to a time
When your little ones are grown;
Hold them tight, don't lose sight
Of the blessings you have known.
Think ahead to a time
When your little boy's a man.
And you'd give anything
Just to hold him again.

Cherish the Moment;
Soon you'll be apart.
Cling to the mem'ry;
Clasp it to your heart.
Soon comes the day
When you'll have no child to hold.
So cherish, cherish the moment.

While the song refers to a child, the need to cherish our moments is hardly limited to that relationship.

Thanks, MLM Today, for keeping our activities and pursuits in the proper perspective. Way to make a difference!

Remember,

Always make a difference!

Saturday, August 21, 2004

A Worthy Read

A new blog, Confessions of a Network Marketing Junkie, deserves your visit. This well thought out and well presented information is absolutely worth reading. Not only is it written well, it is relevant and informative.

Particularly interesting is the posting Leads...I need to buy leads...NOT! Here is a treasure trove of options that will help you get the word out about your business.

Thanks, ex-nmjunkie, and welcome to blogging!

Tuesday, August 17, 2004

Where Has All the Reason Gone!

This will probably not be a popular post. But, popularity is seldom a proper motive for taking action.

It seems the politics of destruction has come to the weblog world. It's not enough that the professional politicians have been slinging the mud, now intelligent (?) adults reduce themselves to the tactics of children, all for the sake of proving they're right. My hope is that this post will prevent a policy of mutual destruction, and the harm that may come to the innocent bystanders that are looking for optimism and opportunity.

The apparent goal of one blog is to dig up all the dirt possible to besmirch the reputation of a fellow entrepreneur. This self-proclaimed defender of conservative values, and a particular networking business, has adopted the policy of name calling and unsubstantiated accusations. So far the pronouncements have been based on a "he said-she said" line of attack. Such arrogance may play well to the sympathetic crowd, but runs counter to one who seeks a reasoned discussion or debate.

Reason demands that the facts be truthful, and presented without editorial comment. Present your argument, and substantiate it with examples. If the facts don't bear out the assertions, the debate will be lost. Leave out the emotional tirades and verbal abuse. Beware of the "body" language conveyed. Such negative inclusions only degrade one's view.

Shakespeare, in Henry V wrote, "Once more unto the breach, dear friends, once more; Or close the wall up with our English dead. In peace there's nothing so becomes a man as modest stillness and humility: But when the blast of war blows in our ears, You know your places: God be with you all" (Act III, Scene i). I guess the only thing to be gained in this battle is the privilege of seeing the "enemy" surrender or die. How sad! One of the reasons that our republic has experienced economic success is competition. There is room for a multitude of options for those with an entrepreneurial bent. Maybe we'd be further ahead by practicing the "modest stillness and humility" of peace, rather than taking our "places" in the battle.

Let's practice the principle of caveat emptor, but avoid the slanderous attacks. One can disagree, and even promote his personal beliefs and differences without demeaning another human being. One who will make such a choice will make a genuine difference in the lives of those they seek to influence. Let reason reign!

Remember,

Always make a difference.